New Readings, Writings, and Some Mushy Stuff

Posted by on March 5, 2013 in Commercial Fishing, F/V Nerka, Hooked Favorites, Reading & Writing | 10 comments

Hot off the inter­net presses, sweet­ies: In the Tote has a shiny new site for show­cas­ing Fisher Poets’ work!

Great big thanks to vet­eran per­former Pat Dixon for his tremen­dous devo­tion to doc­u­ment­ing the Fisher Poets. The revamped site includes new writ­ers, new pho­tos, and, thanks to Pat’s com­mit­ment to record­ing us this year, new audio. Give it a look and a lis­ten; meet some new favorite writ­ers. I have. (Nice to see you aboard, Meezie!) If you enjoy your visit, please do leave a com­ment to let Pat know. In an entirely vol­un­teer capac­ity, he’s given this work his all, and then some.

I’ve got some­thing new over there, too. “Love at Sea” is a six minute audio story that I haven’t yet shared with any­one. Not even my Num­ber One test audi­ence, Cap’n J — and as it turns out, this one’s entirely ded­i­cated to him.

(Brace your­selves for this shame­less “Get a room!” moment, buddies.)

I’ve appre­ci­ated my part­ner over the past nine years, for sure, but I couldn’t have imag­ined the level of self­less sup­port Joel would give me this win­ter. We’re in the mid­dle of intense boat projects – and by “we,” I mean he’s shoul­dered the entire load him­self so that I can devote myself to writ­ing. Every Mon­day, he makes the two hour drive/ferry ride to Port Townsend. He pulls fiberglass-dusted cov­er­alls back on and spends the week in the boat yard, work­ing to resus­ci­tate the cadaver that is our beloved boat.

It’s crazy over there. Every­thing that gives the Nerka life is either gone or in pieces. The main engine: gone. The refrig­er­a­tion sys­tem: out. Fuel lines, steer­ing lines: dis­con­nected. Shaft: out. Pro­peller: off. Throw in a few gap­ing holes where holes are not meant to be (a par­tic­u­larly dis­con­cert­ing state of being in a ves­sel that needs to be, you know, watertight.)

For those of you with­out boats in your life, I can’t tell you what a daunt­ing scene this is. The Nerka — like every other fish­ing boat — isn’t Just a Boat: she’s our home six months of the year, Joel’s link to his child­hood, our office, our sole source of income, our safe haven. We both know it’ll all go back together in the end. It has to. At the very lat­est, we have to be cruis­ing back up to Alaska by mid-June, ready to drop our hooks in the water on the first of July. I can tell you that know­ing your sweet­heart is spend­ing the day grind­ing fiber­glass is an effec­tive way to com­bat writer’s block. How can I whine about words, given such a gift of time?

I wrote “Love at Sea” for Joel, but sus­pect some of you will find your own point of res­o­nance. So many of us unin­ten­tion­ally absorbed the fairy tale of what our love was sup­posed to look like. Easy. Fun. Hot. Per­fect, span­ning time to Hap­pily Ever After.  But we’re human, and our love is none of those things all of the time.

You don’t need to have spent weeks at sea together, aboard a tiny ship, to have fig­ured out that though the fairy tale is impos­si­ble, hard-earned love is very real.  I won­der what chal­leng­ing sit­u­a­tions some of you have pit­ted your part­ner­ships against, how you tri­umphed (or not), and what unique mea­sure of love you took from those experiences?

Give “Love at Sea” a lis­ten here, then come on back and let me know how you’ve defined love in your life. As always, thanks for being such a par­tic­i­pa­tory group — that’s one of the things I love about you.

 

Thanks, buddy. xoxo

Thanks, buddy. xoxo

 

 

10 Comments

  1. Tele, I love hear­ing about your life. In the video, it was espe­cially inter­est­ing to me when you talked about the fisherman’s work-ethic and not being able to trans­late that to writ­ing. I think about this a lot – not in terms of com­par­ing it to the fisher life, but in gen­eral. I’m think­ing about other lives I’ve had, danc­ing, teach­ing, social work, which some­times involved hours upon hours of paper­work, where I could keep going all day, because I had to get the job done, period. With those jobs, you also know what a “done” job looks like. I think with writ­ing – cre­ative writ­ing – you don’t kknow what “done” will be until it’s here. Also, there is this strain of sit­ting and cre­at­ing, of describ­ing a moment or a feel­ing and try­ing to get it just right. I’m con­vinced it’s a totally dif­fer­ent kind of hard work – maybe that oth­ers can’t see, but it’s weary­ing in a strange but sat­is­fy­ing way. You do have to get up and get cof­fee or some­thing after a few hours! Won­der­ful video and won­der­ful writ­ing, as always!

    • Lisa, thank you so much for tak­ing the time to offer your thoughts on this one! I know you get this, and really value your per­spec­tive. That’s a great point about the dif­fer­ence between work that has a clear “done” and this cre­ative work that has so many var­i­ous stages of “done.” And, like you, it seemed like I could go for­ever in my social work days. There was such urgent neces­sity — kids needed food, socks, hous­ing appli­ca­tion, love — that walk­ing away seemed uncon­scionable when peo­ple were so depen­dent on me doing my job. Maybe bal­let was sim­i­lar, in your fel­low dancers depend­ing on you? Cer­tainly fish­ing is like that, as far as being a team oper­a­tion, every­one need­ing to carry their weight and work together to get things done safely and effec­tively. Maybe that’s another dif­fer­ence with writ­ing… You and I are both blessed with com­mu­ni­ties who sup­port and encour­age our words, yet in rough times I can still find myself tip­toe­ing that “this isn’t NECESSARY, no one’s depend­ing on this being fin­ished” line. At what point does our own need merit the same devo­tion as others’?

      Thanks for the con­ver­sa­tion, Lisa. As always, best wishes to you and yours.

  2. Tele, you are so f*cking tal­ented! Excel­lent mul­ti­me­dia pre­sen­ta­tion over there. Beau­ti­ful read­ing, beau­ti­ful writ­ing, beau­ti­ful video. My mea­sures of love are much like yours. Rob and I are part­ners who aren’t sick of each other yet, who cud­dle up with our pets and declare our­selves “fam-lee.” Sup­port for each other’s dreams is an impor­tant com­po­nent as well, and I’ve only recently dis­cov­ered how to ask for it.

    • Ask­ing for what we need is hard. It’s still hard for me, too. So many times — par­tic­u­larly on the boat — I catch myself feel­ing resent­ful for things Joel isn’t doing/saying/offering: things that I haven’t said I need, but he should just know! And then I think about hav­ing seen that kind of mind-reading expec­ta­tion between my par­ents, and oth­ers, and how great that went. Even being con­scious of our ridiculous/unfair moments, it’s still tough to shift. I’m glad you’re get­ting there, sweetie.

  3. Tele, I heard your voice the other day when I lis­tened to the video on pre­vi­ous post and it was fun to feel almost like I had finally met you in per­son. I was impressed with your calm pre­sen­ta­tion skills and your fab­u­lous voice! “Love At Sea” is noth­ing short of beau­ti­ful and once again your voice is the per­fect vehi­cle. Appar­ently your tal­ent knows no bounds! I am so glad I didn’t miss this and am even more eager to read your book. Is there a release date?

    • Ah shucks, Patri­cia — thanks for all of your sweet­ness. The audio/video read­ings are a fun (if one-sided) step towards fur­ther con­nec­tion, and I’m opti­mistic that we’ll cross paths in the not-so-far-off future. Between you and Gra­ham Milne, two of my favorite inter­net writer friends have made Toronto sound like a lot of fun. A release date is a VERY long dream away yet, but my proposal’s cur­rently mak­ing the rounds among some pub­lish­ers, so fin­gers crossed. Best spring wishes to you and yours; hope you had a lovely Inter­na­tional Women’s Day on Friday!

  4. Tele: Great post and super video. I drove by Port Townsend a few weeks ago on one of my
    many trips to Port Ange­les and saw the Nerka out of the water. I wish you and Joel speedy
    repairs! I just signed a con­tract to sell the old boat.…and the new boat will hope­fully
    splash back in the water within the next 2 weeks and we’ll start in Ore­gon this April.
    Again…great post…love your writing.

    • Thanks for stop­ping by, Todd, and I hope you enjoy your new boat — it’s sure a good one. Best wishes for get­ting com­fort­able with her off Oregon!

  5. Tele,
    I am moved so deeply by your descrip­tion of “Love at Sea”. I am so famil­iar with var­i­ous ver­sions of love, includ­ing famil­ial, friend­ship and roman­tic rela­tion­ships. Some of the most mean­ing­ful apolo­gies I’ve ever received or given were from trans­gres­sions on the back deck or fights that bounced off the tiny sweat­ing alu­minum cab­ins on our gill­net­ters.
    I con­tem­plate what it would be like to fish my boat the Sil­ver Kris with my beloved, Sean, and won­der if it would bring us closer or push us apart. I believe it would do both at dif­fer­ent times, but over­all that it would cre­ate one of the most pro­found bonds pos­si­ble between part­ners. I admire your abil­ity to nav­i­gate the work­ing and roman­tic aspects of your rela­tion­ship with Joel, and aspire to con­duct myself with a sim­i­lar atti­tude. I am so glad to know you are out there fish­ing and writ­ing and weav­ing your diverse selves into one gor­geous and tal­ented crea­ture. Thank you for once again, shar­ing your­self with such can­dor and grace­ful elo­quence. Look­ing for­ward to more.

    • Heather, I’m late in respond­ing to your beau­ti­ful com­ment, but appre­ci­ated it from the moment you left it! Thank you for shar­ing here. I know what you mean by the most mean­ing­ful apolo­gies… In my case, I’ve often had to be the one mak­ing those amends. I appre­ci­ate your com­pli­men­tary words, but the truth is, I’m far bet­ter on paper (screen) than I have been on deck. With Joel and pre­vi­ous ship­mates, I’ve def­i­nitely not been my best self while fish­ing. There are plenty of reasons/excuses, and you know them as well as any­one — sleep depri­va­tion, intense pres­sure, com­pe­ti­tion, cramped liv­ing quar­ters, blah blah blah. I’m still — always! — aspiring to be that per­son with the bet­ter atti­tude, and fre­quently falling very short.

      This sum­mer will be our 8th year fish­ing together. Last year was worse than some of our ear­lier sea­sons, in terms of our com­mu­ni­ca­tion. Those ups and downs are a curi­ous thing to me — how is it that we can get WORSE at work­ing together, with more expe­ri­ence and famil­iar­ity? But even when it’s a bad time, or I’m dis­ap­pointed with my own behav­ior or my reac­tions to his, there’s still no other boat I’d rather be work­ing on. That’s the most pow­er­ful les­son for me: con­flict isn’t con­clu­sion. Those bad times aren’t deal-breakers; we get through them, and get more oppor­tu­ni­ties to prac­tice a dif­fer­ent way of being. I sus­pect you’ve taken sim­i­lar lessons from your expe­ri­ences. :)

      I’m SO pleased to have met you, Heather. I’m eager to learn more about your own journey.

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